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A Tale of Two Cities.

One of the reasons I love the blogosphere is the inspiration you can find day-to-day. There’s a world at your fingertips filled with stories, dreams, hopes, lessons, and ideas. It is simply beautiful.

The other day I was scrolling through my blog reader and stumbled across a post from Meg at Rivers + Roads talking about how she met her best friend. The blog post encouraged my heart to retrace the steps of my own best friendship, and the ways in which we’ve grown over the years.

{Update: Back in October, I wrote about facing the unknown with my best friend, Elizabeth, after she received a diagnosis for a rare cancer. After a transplant and chemotherapy throughout the beginning of 2014, I can happily say she is now back home and getting her heal on.}

Atlantic City Collage / from TheSirensTale.com

Elizabeth and I first met through work while we were living in Baltimore in 2009. After an impromptu weekend trip to Atlantic City, we became instant close friends, sharing stories of homesickness, work laughter, and trouble in love.

Shortly afterwards, we both left the city and returned to our home towns. I returned to the East Coast (Massachusetts) and Elizabeth returned to the Midwest (Indiana), putting one thousand miles in between us. That was the start of a long distance friendship that has grown stronger every year despite the miles.

First Reunion / from TheSirensTale.com
After moving back home and having far too many miles in between us, we began having annual reunions. Our first reunion took place in Massachusetts’ historical cities, Boston and Salem. Behind all the tourist attractions and photo opportunities, our friendship was thickening, weaving experiences and secrets throughout the days.

Second Reunion / from TheSirensTale.com
For our second reunion, we met halfway between our home states, landing us in Western New York on the border of Michigan. This reunion we brought our new boyfriends in tow, but stayed focused on one another. I’ll never forget the nights filled with fire pits, marshmallows, ghost stories, and hysterical laughter.

Despite having annual reunions since 2010, it’s difficult having a long distance friendship. When you’re having a bad day, you can’t turn to your best friend for a hug or a shoulder to cry on. When you’re nervous about the present or future, you can’t spend the night in jammies talking it out over take-out and bad television shows. When the good times roll in, you’re not able to jump up and down together or have impromptu dance parties as a celebration.

Fourth Reunion / from TheSirensTale.com

Hands down, Elizabeth is the guru in our duo when it comes to strengthening a long distance bond. Despite the miles and months in between our lives, she works hard at making our friendship feel as though we live in the same town. Add this to the uncountable list of reasons why she’s not only my best friend, but a role model for me.

Through the years, I’ve picked up a few lessons from Elizabeth on strengthening a friendship, no matter how many miles lie in between.

Long Distance Friendships / from TheSirensTale.com

1. Share life’s bigs and littles.
Don’t forget to share your moments, big and small. Whether it’s a quick text message to say how idiotic your work day has been, or a long phone conversation catching up on all the big things that have happened in your life lately… stay connected!

2. Send care packages.
Let your best friend know they’re on your mind whether you’re together or apart. Elizabeth and I send each other care packages of little trinkets that we find day-to-day that make us think of one another. Besides, who doesn’t love snail mail?

3. Lean on social media.
Sure, I have some issues with the negative side of social media, but that doesn’t stop me from relying on every available avenue to stay connected with my best friend. We use several forms of social media to say everything from ‘I’m thinking of you‘ to ‘Get a load of what’s up in my life right now‘.

4. Visit as much as possible.
Depending on your friendship and the distance between, you may be able to visit monthly, yearly, or every few years. No matter what, see each other as much as possible.

5. Pretend they live next door.
Remove the barrier of distance and play a little make-believe. Some of the things we share daily are insignificant in the big picture of life, whether it be a nail color she found or a book I noticed. By pretending your best friend lives next door, you’re not choosing between good/bad or big/little items to share; you’re simply sharing communication, your lives, and strengthening your bond.

Do you have any long distance friendships?
How do you support your friendships?