Blame it on too many years as a student, but any venture I take part in, I look for themes. The search for themes often takes place in subconscious gatherings, until my mind pieces together all the parts and comes to a new conclusion.
Recently, I’ve found some themes in the blogosphere that sit uncomfortably in my heart. Two major themes I’ve found tied together in the blogging world lately are: the fear of authenticity and the need to apologize for real life.
In the middle of 2013, I read several “exposé” articles from well-loved blogs. These posts shed the aesthetic perfectionism seen featured on most blogs today, and the bloggers unabashedly shared photography and stories from their real day-to-day lives.
You know, real life: messy life. The ‘I just got home from work and my make-up wore off hours ago‘ life. The laundry baskets are overflowing and the sink full of dishes are begging for soap life. The beautifully captured photo, but messy background life. And these posts were beautiful.
Sadly, this trend began to change toward the end of the year, and I began seeing apologetic bloggers crop up regularly.
I’m sorry I haven’t been able to post 2-3 times per week.
I’m sorry my pictures are in low lighting.
I’m sorry that I didn’t respond to your comment within 10 minutes.
I’m sorry that I’ve been a bad blogger.
In a blogging world that has turned so artistic and aesthetic, some people are feeling left in the dust, desperate to make everything look perfect, all the while losing the true focus of life (and blogging): to enjoy it.
I challenge you to embrace yourself and your real life. Accept the messes because they’re all part of the ride. You’re beautiful whether you’re fresh from a selfie shot, or covered in baby vomit after a hellish night of crying. Your life is perfect, just as it is, without the backdrops, the pre-arranged photography, and the need to “capture a moment”, only after cleaning everything else out of the frame and perfectly aligning decor in the background.
Be you, and be that bravely. Your strength and honesty may just become a guiding light for someone feeling alone, a welcomed voice for someone to relate to, or a sprig of hope for those feeling lost.
Do you blog authentically?
Do you feel pressure for perfectionism online or in life?